Getting to Know Your Inner Family - The Intricate work with parts using IFS

Connecting with our inner "parts" can be a deep journey. It takes a lot of courage to listen to our feelings and to express them honestly. Feeling safe is key, because many of these parts will only share their stories when they feel truly welcome and understood.

The poem below is a small exploration inspired by these very conversations, both inner and outer. It’s an ode to the tender, often hidden, parts of ourselves that are waiting for a safe space to be heard.

There Is Something About the Night 

(or A Letter to My Daughters and Mothers)

There is something about the night,

and something 

about the darkest corners of our soul 

that can only be seen 

with the eyes closed.

Some face of truth 

that can never be revealed 

when there is too much light.

Some parts of you that,

when they speak, 

need to be sure no one looks into

their wet eyes.

“I want to give you what I’ve never had. 

I want to be there for you. 

I am the fatherless Sun,” 

says the Night.

“Sometimes you can only understand 

something you no longer have.”

“That’s the strange paradox of Life: 

where to feel full, 

you must be empty, 

to know something is always there, 

it needs to be gone.”

“I am a part of you 

the same way as 

you have always been in me,” 

said the Night with the Dawn.

Perhaps this poem resonated with a part of you. If you're curious about exploring your inner parts through Internal Family Systems (IFS), I'd be happy to hear from you.